Monday, May 31, 2010

To revitalist or not to revitalist

Over dinner tonight my roomies and I started talking about wrinkles. I don't think that's a bad word, just one that I haven't used much until recently. Turns out my roommate has been using eye cream and firming cream since she was 25!!! (She's 31 now) I was laughing about this revelation because apparently it's something that is "the norm" to start younger and younger. "You have to do it before you get wrinkles. It's a preventative measure."
"Too late, I have them already."
"It's never too late Bethany. Start now."
I remembered that Oprah had given me a bottle of revitalist at her Live your Best Life Weekend. (I still have so much blogging I want to do about that weekend!)
I figured it's worth trying, since it's free and all.
We also talked about sunblock. Something I put on when I head to the beach or a picnic but I don't use daily. That's a for sure.
But the revitalift? I don't know. What do you think? Is it a slippery slope? Or just a part of taking care of your skin?

Goal report back

This weekend, while busy, was so lovely. I think it's mostly because I was actually feeling pretty healthy for the most part after such a nasty cold. I set some goals for the weekend and I think I did well!

go grocery shopping so that I have good food in the house (and can get back to packing lunches next week)
Went shopping and got produce and some basics. I'll still need to get some goodies at the store tomorrow, but it felt really nice to have actual fresh food in the house.

Exercise at least 2 times this weekend, maybe even including a yoga class
It was a double dose today. Walked 2 miles and did yoga!! The yoga was a little tricky since I went to class right after seeing SATC2 with my roomie (complete with a cocktail or two). Pre-yoga cocktails... yowsa maybe not such a great idea.

Get good sleep
About to go to bed. Nice.

Work on cleaning up my room and making it feel more comfortable and clean. (I'll post some pics from my new room soon!)
Yes! Painted a piece of furniture I found on the street (Autumn, you'd be proud of me). And organized a bit.

Catch up on some of the blog posts I've been meaning to share!
More coming soon =)

Friday, May 28, 2010


I had plans with a friend after work and she rescheduled. I have to admit I'm kind of glad she did because I am tired and want to go home and do laundry and be in my house and enjoy my space. I've been rushing around in the week or two since I had my cold, trying to catch up on things that I let pile up. This weekend though....I'm slowing down.

Goals for the weekend:
  1. go grocery shopping so that I have good food in the house (and can get back to packing lunches next week)
  2. Exercise at least 2 times this weekend, maybe even including a yoga class
  3. Get good sleep
  4. Work on cleaning up my room and making it feel more comfortable and clean. (I'll post some pics from my new room soon!)
  5. Catch up on some of the blog posts I've been meaning to share!
Yup, that's it. Very modest goals. I need those do-ables to launch me forward! Hope you are well and tlc'ing yourself!

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

You do not take up too much space. You are not an inconvenience. You are not
a slacker. If it's the first time you've ever done something, you do not have to apologize for not being perfect at it. If you have done something a hundred thousand million times, you still do not have to apologize for not being perfect at it.

Save your apologies for when/if you genuinely injure/harm someone. Go all day
without apologizing for yourself and see what if feels like to exist without
begging someone's pardon.

My friend Nicole shared this. It's a part of a longer piece.
I think it's pretty great.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Wednesday, May 19, 2010


I've been thinking about shedding, not only pounds but things that are no longer true about myself (or maybe they never were true).

In this case, I'm ready to shed this phrase from my self-descriptors. "I can't cook. I don't kn0w how to cook. I'm a terrible cook. I don't know how to feed myself good food."

If you've spent any amount of time with me, you know that I say this a lot. And when I'm about to enter a grocery store, or prepare a meal for myself it's the loud mantra playing on repeat in my head. But here's the funny thing, the more I say it, the truer it feels. And IT'S NOT TRUE!

It is true that cooking and making healthier choices takes more of an effort for me than some people I know. It's true that I need to invest time at the grocery store, not go shopping when I'm hungry or rushed, and most of all I need a clean kitchen. As Peter Walsh says "No one makes good choices in a messy kitchen". So true.

But I do know how to follow a recipe and make a plan for a meal and make a real shopping list. I DO know how to do this. And by believing that it maybe removes a little of the anxiety I feel when I'm about to go shopping.

I still need creative ideas on snack options and I need to practice bringing my lunch and preparing meals at home, but most of all that's because the thing I have been practicing is eating out and grabbing junk foods. So of course that it what I'm going to be better at!

There's something to this whole Shedding things that aren't true anymore thing. I'm going to keep exploring it.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Can I start off every morning like this?

After you watch this video:

Fill in the blank in the comments if you are so inspired:

"I like my..."

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Aha moment!!!!

I headed out for the first time in days. Sure, this week I've gotten the mail, I've picked up a few groceries at the corner grocery store; but actually interacting with anyone other than my roommates?

I had a meeting for the QWOCMAP festival team. (My film was made as a part of the QWOCMAP class and will be featured in the festival this summer!) And as excited as I was to see my fellow filmmakers, I was not looking forward to having to be alert and articulate after the way this cold got me down. I hopped on the bus (so grateful that I caught the bus I was afraid I'd miss) and then 10 minutes later I was at my stop.

I was late and so I was rushing down the block and already starting to sweat. And then suddenly I thought, "slow down". It caught me by surprise because previous to that moment I had been thinking "rush, rush, hurry up, get there, hurry." And it was so lovely to have the exact opposite thought, "slow down". Here it is my first "outing", I'm not feeling particularly healthy yet, and the last thing I needed to do was stress myself out and rush about.

The "slow down" that I heard started spreading to other areas of my life and most specifically and directly to this weight loss/bgettinghot journey. I have been feeling panicky about feeling and being so heavy as some major events approach: my jobs 20th anniversary event, the QWOCMAP film festival and parties, SF pride, etc, etc, etc, and I've been sick this week and haven't felt up to exercising and I've been so exhausted....

And somehow the "slow down" morphed and became this aha moment that was "I don't have to be skinny to enjoy these events. I don't have to be skinny to feel loved at these events. I don't have to be skinny to be allowed at these events." Even right now as I'm writing it I got a little chill, because as common sense as it might seem it feels like a new and almost forbidden thought.

This powerful unlinking of my presence at these events and whether I've lost weight or not. I know I want to feel healthier and this unlinking is not the same as me giving up or as me stepping away from my goal. Instead it's a gentleness. A literal weight lifted. "Slow down". Really be in this journey, getting stronger and challenging myself and paying attention to my choices and most of all trusting that I can and will lose weight and get stronger as I learn to make better choices and as I feel safer and stronger.

I feel a little hotter already.

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Yoga in NYC!

Last weekend I went to New York for a real live vacation! The last 3 trips to New York have been for work, so I was delighted to see what heading out to NY for rest and relaxation could feel like!
How do you "turn off work" and head into vacation mode? I made a list for myself: 1) Since I was heading to the Oprah "Live Your Best Life" Weekend, I wanted to relax and really try to soak in all the beauty and delight of the Oprah-fied wisdom. 2) take a yoga class. 3) get a massage 4) eat delicious food 5) have a cocktail or three

First stop! A yoga class! I looked up a few options but then received an email from a friend announcing a "90s yoga cocktail hour". An hour of yoga moves and 90s jams.

Can't say that I've ever yoga flowed to ice ice baby before, but now I can.
As I work up to my 3 yoga classes a day it's fun to take classes at new studios. Just heard on Dr. Oz that he does: 50% cardio, 30% yoga, 20% strength training. (And speaking of Dr. Oz, stay tuned!)
How do you tune into vacation mode? does yoga do the trick for you?

April in Review

A belated post! April in review.
So, March brought the start of this official bgettinghot journey and April brought some discouragement. But in an effort to keep on keeping on here's April in review.

April getting hot in review, by the numbers:
10--days that I incorporated some form of movement, exercise or extra activities in my day.

15-- posts sharing my steps and goals.

3-- more pounds lost! (so 10 total!)

9-- pounds regained by May 15th.

But I'm back on track and so excited to share the current happenings.

I can breathe! (almost)

I know yesterday's post was just an article, and not too personal, but really there were a lot of gems in that article! Yes?
So, in honor of me being able to almost breathe out of my nostrils again.... I thought I'd start catching up on my blog posts! Here we go....

Friday, May 14, 2010

So looking forward to exercise!

I'm still sick, dang this is a yuck cold... but this Prevention article had me longing for a yoga class or a healthy sweat. Long article, but has some nice notables in it.

17 Ways Exercise Sends Health Soaring
Besides losing weight, being active makes you healthier, happier, and sharper

By the Editors of

When most of us launch into a new fitness routine, it is for one common reason: to shed fat. But it turns out focusing on your weight loss goal alone can slash your odds of success by over half, say researchers. A better inspiration: The amazing health rewards you get by being active. Finding the right motivation can make you 70% more likely to keep it up for the long haul, reports the American College of Sports Medicine.

Next time you're too busy, tired, or achy to lace up your sneakers, remember these health-transforming benefits of exercise.

1. Be Happier at Work
Increase productivity...and maybe get a raise

An active lifestyle may help you check off extra items on your to-do list, says a study from the University of Bristol in the United Kingdom. On days staffers participated in on-site fitness activities, they reported thinking more clearly, getting more done, and interacting more effectively with colleagues. You'll be less likely to miss work due to illness, too. Research shows that people who participate in vigorous leisure-time physical activity (such as jogging or bicycling) just once or twice a week take about half the sick time of those who are more sedentary.

Do this: Sign up for workplace fitness classes. None on-site? Recruit coworkers to go for a lunch hour power walk. Or ask HR to designate a room for a noontime stretching or workout session, using DVD instruction.

2. Improve Your Vocabulary
Brush up on your Scrabble skills

A single treadmill session can make you brainier. Exercisers who ran just two 3-minute sprints, with a 2-minute break in between, learned new words 20% faster than those who rested, in a University of Muenster in Germany study. Getting your heart pumping increases blood flow, delivering more oxygen to your noggin. It also spurs new growth in the areas of the brain that control multitasking, planning, and memory.

Do this: Add a bout of exercise, like running up and down the stairs, before trying to memorize anything--say, Spanish phrases for your trip to Mexico.

3. Get Natural Pain Relief
Keep moving to ease stiff, achy joints

It may seem counterintuitive, but rest isn't necessarily best for reducing pain and stiffness in the knees, shoulders, back, or neck. Healthy adults who did aerobic activity consistently had 25% less musculoskeletal pain than their couch-bound peers, says Stanford senior research scientist Bonnie Bruce, DrPH, MPH, RD.

Exercise releases endorphins, the body's natural pain reliever, and may make you less vulnerable to tiny tears in muscles and tendons. Staying active can also provide relief for chronic conditions such as arthritis: In a University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill study, arthritis sufferers experienced 25% less pain and 16% less stiffness after 6 months of low-impact exercise like balance and strengthening moves. Most people start to feel improvement within a few weeks, says study author Leigh Callahan, PhD, an associate professor of medicine at UNC.

Do this: Practice yoga or tai chi twice a week; both increase flexibility and range of motion and reduce pain.

4. Feel Sexy at Any Size
Flaunt a figure you can be proud of

A good workout practically ensures a better body image. The simple act of exercising-regardless of your weight or fitness level-can make you feel positive about how you look, possibly due to the release of feel-good hormones, finds a review of 57 studies on exercise and body image.

Working out can also boost your libido by increasing blood flow to the genitals. University of Washington research found that just one 20-minute cycling workout enhanced sexual arousal up to 169% in women. And the benefits stand the test of time: A Harvard study of swimmers found that those over age 60 were as satisfied sexually as those decades younger.

Do this: Try 20 minutes of aerobics before a romantic evening. To feel good naked anytime, walk or do yoga daily.

5. Lower Dental Bills
A health-boost worth smiling about

Flossing and brushing, it turns out, are not the only keys to a healthy smile, says Mohammad Al-Zahrani, DDS, PhD, a former associate professor at Case Western Reserve University. Exercise plays an important role, too. In his recent study, Al-Zahrani discovered that adults who did 30 minutes of moderate activity 5 or more times a week were 42% less likely to suffer from periodontitis, a gum disease that's more common as you get older. Working out may thwart periodontitis the same way it does heart disease--by lowering levels of inflammation-causing C-reactive protein in the blood.

Do this: In addition to staying active, get a twice-yearly dental cleaning (or more often if your dentist says you are at high risk for gum disease).

6. Unlock Hidden Energy
Rouse your body out of a slump

If you're among the 50% of adults who report feeling tired at least 1 day a week, skip the java and go for a walk. University of Georgia researchers who analyzed 70 different studies concluded that moving your body increases energy and reduces fatigue. Regular exercise boosts certain fatigue-fighting brain chemicals such as norepinephrine and dopamine, which pep you up, and serotonin, a mood enhancer.

Do this: Take a 20-minute stroll for a quick pick-me-up, or aim for 40 minutes of activity daily for a sustained lift.

7. Shrink Stress Fat
Combat anxiety-related weight gain

Just two 40-minute workouts a week is enough to stop dangerous belly fat in its tracks, according to University of Alabama at Birmingham research. The waistline of those who worked out less expanded an average of 3 inches. Exercise may lower levels of hormones such as cortisol that promotes belly fat.

8. Slash Cold Risk 33%
Build up your body's defenses

Moderate exercise doesn't just rev your metabolism--it boosts your immune system, too, helping your body fight off cold bugs and other germs. Women ages 50 to 75 who did 45 minutes of cardio, 5 days a week, had a third as many colds as those who did once-weekly stretching sessions, a University of Washington study found.

Do this: Add more cardio to your routine by turning your walk into a run.

9. Improve Vision
Carrots are great, but exercise might be better

What's good for your heart is good for your eyes. An active lifestyle can cut your risk of age-related macular degeneration by up to 70%, according to a British Journal of Ophthalmology study of 4,000 adults. This incurable disease makes reading, driving, and seeing fine details difficult, and it's the most common cause of blindness after age 60.

Do this: Protect your eyes during all outdoor activities (if you're a walker, shoot for a mile a day). Be sure to wear UVA/UVB-blocking sunglasses all year long.

10. Reach the Deep-Sleep Zone
Decent shut-eye is not a far off dream

Say good night to poor sleep. Women age 60 and older who walked or danced for at least an hour, four times a week, woke up half as often and slept an average 48 minutes more a night than sedentary women, according to a study in the journal Sleep Medicine. That is good news for the many women who toss and turn more as they get older. As you age, sleep patterns start shifting, so you spend more of the night in lighter sleep phases, says Shawn Youngstedt, PhD, an assistant professor of exercise science at the University of South Carolina.

Do this: Aim to exercise for at least half an hour, even if it's after a long day. Evidence suggests that for most people, light to moderate activity in the evening won't disturb sleep, though trial and error will tell you what works for you.

11. Never Get Diabetes
Walk to keep your blood sugar in check

Walking 2 miles 5 times a week may be more effective at preventing diabetes than running nearly twice as much, report Duke University researchers. Because fat is the primary fuel for moderate exercise, walking may better improve the body's ability to release insulin and control blood sugar.

Do this: Start a walking program

12. Eliminate Belly Bloat
Shrink the muffin top

The next time you feel puffy around the middle, resist the urge to stay put. A study from Spain's Autonomous University of Barcelona suggests that mild physical activity clears gas and alleviates bloating. That's because increasing your heart rate and breathing stimulates the natural contractions of the intestinal muscles, helping to prevent constipation and gas buildup by expediting digestion.

Do this: Walk or pedal lightly on a bike until you feel better.

13. Clear Out Brain Fog
Build your mental muscle

Exercise is linked to a lower risk of Alzheimer's disease among older people; now, new research shows it can prevent brain fog at a much younger age too. Japanese researchers assigned sedentary young adults to two groups; one took aerobic exercise classes, and the other did not. After 4 months, MRIs revealed that the nonexercising group experienced shrinkage of gray matter in some areas of the brain, while the active participants had no change.

Do this: Try a new fitness routine, or sign up for a new class at the gym. Besides the obvious benefit of getting a workout, trying something fresh can help stimulate the growth of brain cells.

14. Save Your Heart
Reduce dangerous inflammation

Sedentary, obese women age 50 and older who began exercising lowered their levels of C-reactive protein-an inflammatory blood marker linked to heart disease—by 10% after 1 year, found research recently published in Medicine & Science in Sports & Exercise.

15. Add Years to Your Life
Stay healthy and active for years to come

Being physically fit can actually change how your body works. Vigorous exercisers have longer telomeres-cellular biomarkers that shorten as we age-compared with healthy adults who rarely work out.

16. Ease Your Ailments
Heal your body with yoga

Yoga has a well-earned reputation as a surefire stress reducer (particularly when combined with meditation), and new studies show the simple stretching regimen can also help treat and prevent a number of other ailments, from back pain to diabetes. Other research reveals regular yoga practice can put an end to mindless eating by creating an outlet for emotions that can lead to binging. Unfortunately, less than 15% of women over age 35 say they do yoga frequently, according to the National Sporting Goods Association.

17. Survive Breast Cancer
Increase your defenses against the disease

Exercise not only reduces breast cancer risk, it can also save your life if you're diagnosed. Overweight women who were exercising more than 3 hours a week before they were diagnosed were 47% less likely to die than those who exercised less than a half hour per week.

Do this: Sneak in mini bouts of exercise. Take a quick walk when you get the morning paper, hit the stairs before lunch, or knock out a few pushups and crunches while watching TV. Just two to three 10-minute workouts a day is enough to fill your quota for the week.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

It's Spring in NYC!

Hi there! I get all excited to be back to my blogging routine and then I'm gone again. But this time, it was not me giving up and checking out; it was actually me plugging in. I went on vacation! Gasp! A 4 day adventure to NYC for the Oprah Live Your Best Life weekend and even a quick 24 hours in sunny San Diego!
I have so many things I'm excited to share with you, including:
  • April in Review
  • Yoga in NYC
  • The art of packing light(er)
  • LYBL weekend part I, II and III
  • A new video with a surprise guest
  • And a real push up routine created by Autumn to help me get stronger and stay consistent!
For now though, I'm home with a cold and about to get some much needed sleep. I'm super excited to update you all though! Hope you are each well and healthy and delighting in the Springtime in whatever ways feel good to you.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Laughter therapy

I don't remember the last time I actually laughed during therapy. Not just a little giggle, I mean a full on guffaw all loud and hearty. Usually, it's quite the opposite.
Yesterday, I had my weekly therapy session and I said, "I'm just so disappointed in myself. Here it is a month away from my film event and I'm not going to have lost any weight at all."
I started to go on about this and my therapist stopped me,
"What does one thing have to do with another Bethany?"
"What do you mean? They have everything to do with each other."
"Why, it's not like you have to present your movie in a bikini, do you?"

And then I started laughing so hard at the thought of that and at my all or nothing thinking that really is not so logical when you really stop to think about it.

It ended up being a really great conversation about how we unlink those things. Keep them in different folders, because truly they don't have to be connected. I can find joy in my event and be proud of my film and feel present, even if I don't lose weight. And I will lose weight because I am working to make changes, even if they are little snowflakes that don't always seem to stick (yet).

Loved getting some perspective on it and taking a pause.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Walk off the blah's

Beautiful Spring Day in SF. Feeling super drained though. Decided that I'd walk to my errand rather than ride the bus. Then I decided to walk back. Nice pace, no rushing. Just listening to my "4 minutes" pandora station and enjoying the sunshine. I didn't even mind that I showed up to the bank all sweaty and they still were just as happy to take my money.
Here are a few pics I snapped while heading past my local park.

What Heidi said

Despite Cosmo's claim that they have the corner on all things sexy and fabulous, I typically ignore the mag. That's usually pretty easy to do, but recently my roommate started subscribing and now we have copies all over the house. The May issue sitting on my kitchen table caught my eye because I tend to admire something about Heidi Klum's general fabulousness. Although I must admit this last season of Project Runway totally bored me (except for the genius of Tim Gunn of course).
I flipped to Heidis interview and was really struck by this quote.
You have to fully try before you give up.
As you know I've had some trouble these last few weeks with staying the course on my gettinghot goals. So I liked her take on this. Kind of like telling me, "Go ahead Bethany, give up. But only after you really really fully try." And it's in those moments that I really really fully try that I want to give up the least because I feel better and stronger and healthier!

More wisdom from The Simple Dollar

If you’re not happy with some aspect of your life, simply doing more of the same thing won’t help.You’ve got to do something different, and that often means completely changing the routine of your life.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Here I am!

Hi there! Didn't mean to lag in my posts.
I like posting regularly. It helps keep me connected to you and to my goals.
Speaking of which... I have been so far away from my goals lately. My trip to DC gave me a chance to practice being healthy while traveling. I think it was something about a second trip so close to my trip to Minnesota. And feeling stressed and not paying attention. The last few weeks have been a prime example of the slippery slope/ snowball/ whatever you want to call it, winning out over my smart choices. Ie... (almost) daily chais, sweets, alcohol. Yikes! But I realized that instead of running away from my goals, I have the choice to reconnect with them.
So, here goes!
I'm reconnecting to my goals. Instead of extremes or all or nothing choices, I'm trying to reflect on why I started this journey in the first place: to get HEALTHY!
What is my goal?
My goal is to be under 200 pounds and healthy, strong, sexy, and confident.

199 is not going to automatically equal healthy, strong, sexy and confident. But those feelings are achieved (I think) by setting and achieving goals. 199 is also not going to automatically make all my worries, debts, fears, etc go away. But 199 will mark a breaking through of a wall and the achievement of a goal that has felt so very far away.

I started reading this really wonderful blog called The Simple Dollar. A recent post talked about the idea of "Snowflaking". Basically it's the idea of not needing to snowball change in order to make a difference, but instead these little choices we make every day really do add up. Check out the post. It's pretty great. "It creates a powerful connection between big goals and the little choices we make each day, often in a very tangible fashion." Love this statement!!!

How lovely! Yes! These little choices I make every day. Even when I may not notice right away, connect me and ground me in my goals and I feel it in a more tangible way and make real movement!

Happy May folks! Please stick with me!